They say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and the differences between the sexes do often seem to be worlds apart. Interestingly, scientists now say that a lot of that has to do with the way male and female brains are hard-wired; but changing social mores also play a significant role. Since the dawn of feminism in the 1960s (actually much earlier than that, but for simplicity we’ll use the ‘60s when “the times, they were a changin’”), women have been pushing for an equal seat at life’s table (especially in the corporate board room). The feminine revolution has turned and twisted still-changing gender roles and expectations — for men as well as women. The ongoing metamorphosis has changed what women are looking for in a partner and what women want from a man when they are dating.
Based on a Rutgers University study of 5,200 single people ages 21 to 65 conducted for Match.com, here are some of the things a modern woman wants from her main man:
- Women place greater value on independence than men. Even when in a committed relationship, women want time to themselves to pursue their own interests or go out with the girls.
- Women are choosier than men about their companions. Men were more flexible about their partner’s ethnicity and religion than women.
- The study showed men are more interested in marriage than women, a finding questioned by some leading sociologists and psychologists.
- When couples move in together, women are more likely to favor separate checking accounts or maintain a separate account of their own in addition to a joint account.
- The closer women get to the end of their fertile years, the less interested they are in having children. The study found that while 27% of men ages 35 to 44 wanted to have children, only 16% of women in that age range were interested in parenthood.