You may or may not be new to the world of online dating, but in either case it’s important to understand the importance of correct email communication once you start up a good back-and-forth with a potential dating interest.

There is a fine line between overselling yourself and selling yourself short. When communicating through email from your online dating service you must catch and keep the other person’s attention. You have to sound interesting, intriguing and engaging. However, you have to hold back a little in order to remain mysterious and keep the other party interesting in learning more about you. Really it all comes down to establishing a balance.

Here are some tips for effective online dating email communication:

1. Play The Game – Dating is kind of a game and you have to play to win. Even if you’re being chased you also have to chase. One of the best things to do when you see an online dating profile you’re interested in is send something simple and enticing such as a quick email establishing a connection with something in their profile. If they like to travel mention something about the last exotic trip you took.That begins the game. You’re revealing barely any information at all other than you’re interested, and that will drive the other person crazy because they’ll want to learn more about you.

2. Don’t Give Too Much Information Too Soon – Only share enough information about yourself to entice your dating interest. Make sure to keep your answers to questions only one or two sentences long and respond with a sassy tone. Wit is important.

3. Represent Yourself Honestly – It’s easy to misrepresent yourself when it comes to online dating due to the anonymity the Internet provides us. But, don’t start shaving a few years off your age or making yourself out to be cooler, just be yourself because that is sexy. As long as you’re confident in who you are and portray that confidence during your online dating communication and even remain a little humorous about yourself, it will entice and impress the person you’re communicating with.

4. Don’t Lead Them On – If you’re not interested in the other person make sure you let them know that ASAP. If someone sends you a message don’t just ignore it, let them know as politely and as respectfully as you can that you don’t feel the both of you are a match. That way, it’s not so much as a rejection as a lack of initial chemistry. In this case, treat others as you would like to be treated when it comes to online dating communication.

If you’re thinking about organizing an in-person meeting with someone you’ve been communicating with via your online dating profile, make sure to read a previous blog entitled “Internet Dating Safety 101” so you can have fun and be safe.

Also, if you still want to know more about flirting online don’t forget to check out “How to Flirt Online – 5 Tried and True Tips for Internet Dating”.

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So I admit that I don’t have a lot of time but I do try to hit CNN so at least I have some idea what is going on from time to time. Of course the dating related articles always catch my interest and the  other day I saw this article by Leonora Epstein writing for the Frisky ( www.frisky.com) which I thought was really great and broken down her research on what were some of the automatic online dating deal breakers that she has come across over the years and in interviewing woman especially. Of course the first thing that came up was dating Photos.

Here is Leonora Epstein’s take on what is an automatic turn off fro women when they look at a guys photo,

Pictures:

•When his pic is a glamour shot

• Making weird faces with a caption “two hours of sleep!” Either he’s seeking sympathy, or showing how he parties too hard.

• When there is no photo. Moving on.

• Shirtless poses. Can you spell cocky?

• Clown masks, or equally freaky and elaborate Halloween costumes. Scary! Not funny!

• More than one of the pictures is with his “bros” out in a bar getting sloppy.

• When he poses with girls. First, do you have a girlfriend? Huh? Second, pretty sure that girl doesn’t know you’re using her photo, and doubly sure she wouldn’t be too happy about it. The Frisky: No-nos for online dating photos

OK so that about sums it up when we try and explain the simple ways that guys can improve their profiles, fix the photo first and follow some of these simple rules …its not us that is telling you this its the women that you want to date! Besides, don’t you think that the online dating companies should be teaching you this stuff rather than burying it in some obscure ” How-to” section on their websites ??

It really drives me crazy when people could be so much more successful if they would only follow a few simple rules.

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