Today Datingheadshots Inc. and Cupids Coach are please to announce a new partnership that creates a powerful executive dating solution for those that deserve the “Red Carpet” treatment and want to create the very best online image possible, not just an online dating image.

What truly amazes me is how many people throw up lackluster profiles and then are surprised that online dating does not work for them.

What’s the first that you see when you enter an online dating site? Row after row of photos of people that meet your search criteria. Do you click on every one of them and read their profile? No you skim through the ones that look appealing and then, only then, do you take the time to read the profile.

Your profile is your first impression and if you don’t make a good first impression then nobody is going to be that motivated to reach out to try and meet you.

So what are busy people or people that feel they deserve the very best going to do? They hire the experts to take care of them and get it done right. That’s what VIP Executive dating is all about… and is why the partnership with Cupids Coach is a One-Two-Punch to creating the perfect online dating profile with the perfect online dating photo and superbly written online dating profile.

This partnership sets the standard for creating the high-touch executive dating or VIP dating experience that many clients have been looking for. These are the type of people that want the best and expect the best. They know that their online image matters and they are willing to do what it takes to create the best image possible, an image that will set them apart from the crowd.

To learn more about this you can check out the Press Release here:

http://www.prweb.com/releases/executive_dating/01/prweb3461814.htm

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Your Looks and Your Inbox

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/

I saw some great articles come out of the OKCupid’s OKTrends blogs the other day. some of it was controversial and some of it was downright obvious. My favorite was the one about you”looks and your inbox. The only problem was the persons “looks” can only be determined by the photo that they decide to upload to the website. If a attractive person decides to upload an unattractive photo then what do they expect? We have had many clients who have admitted that they did not really like the photos that they started out with on the dating sites and were still surprised that they got so little mail in their inbox?

What I really want to see is a good study on the effects of quality photos on online dating. If a person uploads the very best photo of themselves, and i mean a legitimate photo, not a retouched monstrosity how well will they do thann if they uploaded a crappy photo of themselves. Now that would be a study worth doing.

Here is my comment about the study ….

Why is everyone acting like this is such a big surprise? Spend 5 seconds with an online dating site and what do they show you? Photos? row after row of photos of people that are supposed to meet your criteria. it makes perfect sense.

What doesn’t make sense is the fact that many people pretend that their photo does not matter. I mean come on …Online dating is the ultimate in self promotion. First impressions matter, and they matter most in online dating …and how do you make a great first impression? with a great dating Profile photos. How much more simple could it be? yeeeesh!

if you don’t care enough to put a good photo of yourself online then you must not really care about it all that much. Who wants to date someone that can’t even muster the energy to portray themselves in the best light?

A better study would be, take the same person with a great photo from one of the pro dating profile places like datingheadshots and then take the same person with their regular crappy snapshot and see which photo generates the most responses. that’s the study I’m looking for …not one that essentially boils down to the quality of the photo that someone decides to post.

You’re an interesting and attractive woman, right? So why are you not having any success in the online dating world? Even if you are getting messages from interesting men, why is it that, after the first date, they never want to speak to you again?

Often times women don’t realize when they’re turning men off or why they’re turning men off. However, there are a few tips you need to take into account when searching for the perfect guy in the online dating world and it begins with your online dating profile picture.

1) Your Dating Profile Picture Doesn’t Show The Real You

We don’t all have the eye of a photographer, that’s true. However, it’s safe to say that we all know what looks good. There are so many online dating profile pictures that are either fuzzy or disproportional once confined to the online dating service’s photo dimensions that even the most attractive woman can look unappealing. Yet, your profile picture is the first thing that men look at. That isn’t because men are shallow (although some are, of course) but mainly because that is the way online dating sites are set up — the first thing people see is your online dating profile picture.

The first step to gaining men’s attention online is to get a professional headshot taken. This let’s your true beauty and personality shine through. There are great online services that allows you to find certified professional photography studios in your area, that way you’ll start getting more messages from men.

But, what happens when it comes down to the actual date?

2) You’re Too Flirty

Men love it when women flirt, that’s a given. However, when you’re giggling, touching and tossing hair everywhere it can be an immediate turnoff. For good or ill, men love a good chase and you need to play hard to get. Becoming too outwardly flirty will guarantee you won’t see him again. A woman that flirts and demands too much attention is a woman with low self-esteem issues and men know that.

3) You Talk Too Much About The Future

Men like to live in the right here, right now. Talking to your first date about how many children you want to have, what kind of house that you want to live in and what kind of wedding dress you’re going to wear will turn him off immediately and you’ll find yourself ignored by yet another man. Saying things like this on the first date is a no-no. Not only that, but talking about these things during the first month is a no-no.

4) You’re Too Clingy

No one, no matter who they are, likes a clingy nuisance. If you find yourself adopting his interests whilst staring at him adoringly, calling him 15 times a day, emailing him and asking him to go everywhere with you, then whatever relationship that could have been will be destroyed — no questions asked. Men enjoy being independent and they respect a woman that can be independent herself. The best thing to do is meet him in the middle.

5) You’re The Party-Too-Much Girl

Every guy likes a good party and they certainly don’t want a boring woman that never wants to go out and have a good time. That’s why the proverbial party girl can seem like a good match for a guy at first. However, women who don’t know the meaning of “closing time” will turn a guy off very quickly. If you can’t have a good time without going off the hinges, then you’ll loose a guy’s respect in two shakes of a lamb’s tail.

6) You’re Talking Too Much

A woman that talks too much is either too into herself and no one else or someone that has incredibly low self-esteem. Men hate it when women talk too much, it makes them clench their jaw, tighten their fists and rub their temples incessantly. Many times the perfect relationship isn’t based on how much you have in common or how easily you chat back and forth, but how you both can sit in silence comfortably, simply being with each other. Remember that.

The first step to getting a man’s attention is you paying attention to your own profile pictures, especially ones that allow your true personality to shine through. Again, men need incentive and you don’t need to be the most stunning woman on the internet to gain that incentive. You only need to have a clear portrait of yourself that shows who you are so that you can gain the right man’s attention. DatingHeadshots.com is a fantastic resource for finding photographers in your area that concentrate on making your dating profile pictures not only better, but true to your personality.

In a perfect world there would be no shallow people. Everyone would gauge his or her romantic interests based solely on personality. However, that just isn’t the case – not for you, not for me and not for anyone else, especially when it comes to the world of online dating.

Your dating profile picture is the first thing people see, based upon how appealing that profile picture is, they’ll decide whether or not to investigate your online dating profile further by reading about your likes, dislikes, wants and desires. If you’re thinking that this is shallow, you may want to look at your own online dating habits. Don’t YOU usually do the same thing? Sure you do.

Due to this simple fact, online dating profile pictures are incredibly important, if not completely vital to your success in the world of online dating. So, if you’re not getting enough dates through your online dating service, consider some of the following profile picture blunders

1. Too Pixilated

When you have a profile picture that is blurry and pixilated, then it’s incredibly difficult to tell how you really look. People will most likely pass by a pixilated photo and never know who you really are. Make sure your profile photo is clear and easy to see.

2. Distorted

No matter what online dating service you’re using, each one will have a limit on the profile picture dimensions. They will request a particular file size, pixel width and pixel height. Even if your picture isn’t pixilated, it could be distorted if you don’t pay attention to these dimensions and adhere to them. If your dating profile picture is distorted it could make you look fat even if you’re not, it could make your face look longer than it actually is and it will ultimately end up making you look unappealing. Always read the dimension guidelines before uploading your headshot, that way you won’t be stuck wondering why no one is messaging you.

3. Bad Lighting

If your online dating profile picture is too dark, too light or oddly shadowed, then you’re going to look unappealing. Even taking a picture of yourself in the daylight can cast unwanted shadows over your face because of your nose, ears, cheeks, chin, bottom lips and so on. The best way to solve this problem is to have your headshot taken in soft lighting that isn’t too dark and not too light. If you want to take your photograph outside, make sure to do so when there is an overcast sky so that the sunlight isn’t too harsh.

4. Over Done

No one thinks a profile picture of a guy with his shirt off flexing for the camera or a girl trying to look overly sexy for her profile picture is actually appealing. Not only is that going to attract the wrong kind of people, it’s going to make you look cheap. You need to have dating headshots that show your true personality and that will attract the kind of person you’re looking for. So, cover up, stop puckering up and just be yourself so you don’t over do it.

You may or may not be new to the world of online dating, but in either case it’s important to understand the importance of correct email communication once you start up a good back-and-forth with a potential dating interest.

There is a fine line between overselling yourself and selling yourself short. When communicating through email from your online dating service you must catch and keep the other person’s attention. You have to sound interesting, intriguing and engaging. However, you have to hold back a little in order to remain mysterious and keep the other party interesting in learning more about you. Really it all comes down to establishing a balance.

Here are some tips for effective online dating email communication:

1. Play The Game – Dating is kind of a game and you have to play to win. Even if you’re being chased you also have to chase. One of the best things to do when you see an online dating profile you’re interested in is send something simple and enticing such as a quick email establishing a connection with something in their profile. If they like to travel mention something about the last exotic trip you took.That begins the game. You’re revealing barely any information at all other than you’re interested, and that will drive the other person crazy because they’ll want to learn more about you.

2. Don’t Give Too Much Information Too Soon – Only share enough information about yourself to entice your dating interest. Make sure to keep your answers to questions only one or two sentences long and respond with a sassy tone. Wit is important.

3. Represent Yourself Honestly – It’s easy to misrepresent yourself when it comes to online dating due to the anonymity the Internet provides us. But, don’t start shaving a few years off your age or making yourself out to be cooler, just be yourself because that is sexy. As long as you’re confident in who you are and portray that confidence during your online dating communication and even remain a little humorous about yourself, it will entice and impress the person you’re communicating with.

4. Don’t Lead Them On – If you’re not interested in the other person make sure you let them know that ASAP. If someone sends you a message don’t just ignore it, let them know as politely and as respectfully as you can that you don’t feel the both of you are a match. That way, it’s not so much as a rejection as a lack of initial chemistry. In this case, treat others as you would like to be treated when it comes to online dating communication.

If you’re thinking about organizing an in-person meeting with someone you’ve been communicating with via your online dating profile, make sure to read a previous blog entitled “Internet Dating Safety 101” so you can have fun and be safe.

Also, if you still want to know more about flirting online don’t forget to check out “How to Flirt Online – 5 Tried and True Tips for Internet Dating”.

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So I admit that I don’t have a lot of time but I do try to hit CNN so at least I have some idea what is going on from time to time. Of course the dating related articles always catch my interest and the  other day I saw this article by Leonora Epstein writing for the Frisky ( www.frisky.com) which I thought was really great and broken down her research on what were some of the automatic online dating deal breakers that she has come across over the years and in interviewing woman especially. Of course the first thing that came up was dating Photos.

Here is Leonora Epstein’s take on what is an automatic turn off fro women when they look at a guys photo,

Pictures:

•When his pic is a glamour shot

• Making weird faces with a caption “two hours of sleep!” Either he’s seeking sympathy, or showing how he parties too hard.

• When there is no photo. Moving on.

• Shirtless poses. Can you spell cocky?

• Clown masks, or equally freaky and elaborate Halloween costumes. Scary! Not funny!

• More than one of the pictures is with his “bros” out in a bar getting sloppy.

• When he poses with girls. First, do you have a girlfriend? Huh? Second, pretty sure that girl doesn’t know you’re using her photo, and doubly sure she wouldn’t be too happy about it. The Frisky: No-nos for online dating photos

OK so that about sums it up when we try and explain the simple ways that guys can improve their profiles, fix the photo first and follow some of these simple rules …its not us that is telling you this its the women that you want to date! Besides, don’t you think that the online dating companies should be teaching you this stuff rather than burying it in some obscure ” How-to” section on their websites ??

It really drives me crazy when people could be so much more successful if they would only follow a few simple rules.

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So its been a big two weeks for DatingHeadshots. A complete redesign and a new partnership with Honesty Online (www.Honestyonline.com). I hope that everyone will go and check out the design and tell us what you think. Hopefully this will make things much easier to navigate and to choose a package that is right for them.

In addition, we finally have our partnership with Honesty Online in place and rolling. Honesty Online (HO) makes online dating as safe and secure as possible by allowing users to verify their identities and prove to others they are who they say they are. Why don’t all Online dating comapnies offer this as a way of helping the online daters out and getting them started on the path to safe and suceesful dating. When you couple this service with verified photos your get the “One-two punch”; verified people with verified photos! they are who they say they are and they look excatly like they do in the photos.

Check it out and see what you think. I think that this partnership can solve a lot of the problems that Online daters are having and a lot of the worries that some experience when they are online dating.

I believe that there is a range of “types” of relationships that people are looking for. Not everyone is looking for marriage or even love. The online dating industry simply increases your opportunities for finding the relationship you are looking for exponentially.

To do this they give you two marketing tools, your written profile and your photos.
The only problem is potential dates aren’t interested in wading though the mountain of written profiles, they go right to the photos. In fact, the online dating companies don’t even give you an option to start reviewing peoples’ written profiles. All they present you with is a thumbnail of the person’s main profile photo. If you don’t have a photo …you don’t even get a chance to have someone look at your profile because you are on the 30th page of the dating sites search results!

The dating industry constantly ignores helping their subscribers with the fundamentals in favor of the next big technology like, pings or smiles or even mobile dating. They keep trying to find ways to put people together in the same virtual “room” but they forget to help you “dress” for the occasion.

Imagine you have a friend who is constantly bringing eligible dates to your house at all hours of the day and night regardless of how your dressed or made up. Imagine you just got out of bed and look like shit and here they come through your front door.  They probably aren’t going to be very impressed and will turn around and walk out the door.  That’s what its like when you don’t take care of the online dating fundamentals.

That is what I think every time I look through the online dating sites and see countless lousy photos of people looking for a relationship ..don’t they get it? Isn’t it obvious?

The dating companies think that photos are the number one most important thing to helping you start a conversation with the other person …that’s why when you do a search all that comes up are page after page of photos of people that meet your search criteria. If it is so important to them that they would build the entire web site to show your photo first then don’t you think that you should probably put at least a good photo in your profile?

Out of focus, to many people in the picture, too small, too distorted, pixilated, photo with a baby, photo of only a dog, too funky, photo looks like a mug shot….these are the common photos people upload to try and make an impression on someone enough to get the other person to start a conversation. Then they are surprised that online dating doesn’t work for them!

Everyone has heard the stories or even knows somebody that got the relationship they were looking for with online dating. However, they forget to ask what those people did differently to make it work for them.

Most people only stay with an online dating site for 3 months before they leave it for good. Yet within a few weeks they usually pick another online dating site, usually a free site, and start all over, thinking that it was the sites fault that they did not get a lot of dates. They load the same profile photos, if they have them, and copy the same profile to the new site and sit back and wait. Then they are surprised that they get the same results.

Here’s some advice, Try something different. Take some time with your profile and make the best “first impression” that you can. Write some thing “real” and take a little time to find a photo of you, just you, that you like.

Your dating sites is not going to help you with the dating fundamentals, no matter if you pay them every month or it’s a free site. With a little care and attention to the dating fundamentals you will enjoy the most dating success possible.