Today Datingheadshots Inc. and Cupids Coach are please to announce a new partnership that creates a powerful executive dating solution for those that deserve the “Red Carpet” treatment and want to create the very best online image possible, not just an online dating image.

What truly amazes me is how many people throw up lackluster profiles and then are surprised that online dating does not work for them.

What’s the first that you see when you enter an online dating site? Row after row of photos of people that meet your search criteria. Do you click on every one of them and read their profile? No you skim through the ones that look appealing and then, only then, do you take the time to read the profile.

Your profile is your first impression and if you don’t make a good first impression then nobody is going to be that motivated to reach out to try and meet you.

So what are busy people or people that feel they deserve the very best going to do? They hire the experts to take care of them and get it done right. That’s what VIP Executive dating is all about… and is why the partnership with Cupids Coach is a One-Two-Punch to creating the perfect online dating profile with the perfect online dating photo and superbly written online dating profile.

This partnership sets the standard for creating the high-touch executive dating or VIP dating experience that many clients have been looking for. These are the type of people that want the best and expect the best. They know that their online image matters and they are willing to do what it takes to create the best image possible, an image that will set them apart from the crowd.

To learn more about this you can check out the Press Release here:

http://www.prweb.com/releases/executive_dating/01/prweb3461814.htm

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Your Looks and Your Inbox

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/

I saw some great articles come out of the OKCupid’s OKTrends blogs the other day. some of it was controversial and some of it was downright obvious. My favorite was the one about you”looks and your inbox. The only problem was the persons “looks” can only be determined by the photo that they decide to upload to the website. If a attractive person decides to upload an unattractive photo then what do they expect? We have had many clients who have admitted that they did not really like the photos that they started out with on the dating sites and were still surprised that they got so little mail in their inbox?

What I really want to see is a good study on the effects of quality photos on online dating. If a person uploads the very best photo of themselves, and i mean a legitimate photo, not a retouched monstrosity how well will they do thann if they uploaded a crappy photo of themselves. Now that would be a study worth doing.

Here is my comment about the study ….

Why is everyone acting like this is such a big surprise? Spend 5 seconds with an online dating site and what do they show you? Photos? row after row of photos of people that are supposed to meet your criteria. it makes perfect sense.

What doesn’t make sense is the fact that many people pretend that their photo does not matter. I mean come on …Online dating is the ultimate in self promotion. First impressions matter, and they matter most in online dating …and how do you make a great first impression? with a great dating Profile photos. How much more simple could it be? yeeeesh!

if you don’t care enough to put a good photo of yourself online then you must not really care about it all that much. Who wants to date someone that can’t even muster the energy to portray themselves in the best light?

A better study would be, take the same person with a great photo from one of the pro dating profile places like datingheadshots and then take the same person with their regular crappy snapshot and see which photo generates the most responses. that’s the study I’m looking for …not one that essentially boils down to the quality of the photo that someone decides to post.

You’re an interesting and attractive woman, right? So why are you not having any success in the online dating world? Even if you are getting messages from interesting men, why is it that, after the first date, they never want to speak to you again?

Often times women don’t realize when they’re turning men off or why they’re turning men off. However, there are a few tips you need to take into account when searching for the perfect guy in the online dating world and it begins with your online dating profile picture.

1) Your Dating Profile Picture Doesn’t Show The Real You

We don’t all have the eye of a photographer, that’s true. However, it’s safe to say that we all know what looks good. There are so many online dating profile pictures that are either fuzzy or disproportional once confined to the online dating service’s photo dimensions that even the most attractive woman can look unappealing. Yet, your profile picture is the first thing that men look at. That isn’t because men are shallow (although some are, of course) but mainly because that is the way online dating sites are set up — the first thing people see is your online dating profile picture.

The first step to gaining men’s attention online is to get a professional headshot taken. This let’s your true beauty and personality shine through. There are great online services that allows you to find certified professional photography studios in your area, that way you’ll start getting more messages from men.

But, what happens when it comes down to the actual date?

2) You’re Too Flirty

Men love it when women flirt, that’s a given. However, when you’re giggling, touching and tossing hair everywhere it can be an immediate turnoff. For good or ill, men love a good chase and you need to play hard to get. Becoming too outwardly flirty will guarantee you won’t see him again. A woman that flirts and demands too much attention is a woman with low self-esteem issues and men know that.

3) You Talk Too Much About The Future

Men like to live in the right here, right now. Talking to your first date about how many children you want to have, what kind of house that you want to live in and what kind of wedding dress you’re going to wear will turn him off immediately and you’ll find yourself ignored by yet another man. Saying things like this on the first date is a no-no. Not only that, but talking about these things during the first month is a no-no.

4) You’re Too Clingy

No one, no matter who they are, likes a clingy nuisance. If you find yourself adopting his interests whilst staring at him adoringly, calling him 15 times a day, emailing him and asking him to go everywhere with you, then whatever relationship that could have been will be destroyed — no questions asked. Men enjoy being independent and they respect a woman that can be independent herself. The best thing to do is meet him in the middle.

5) You’re The Party-Too-Much Girl

Every guy likes a good party and they certainly don’t want a boring woman that never wants to go out and have a good time. That’s why the proverbial party girl can seem like a good match for a guy at first. However, women who don’t know the meaning of “closing time” will turn a guy off very quickly. If you can’t have a good time without going off the hinges, then you’ll loose a guy’s respect in two shakes of a lamb’s tail.

6) You’re Talking Too Much

A woman that talks too much is either too into herself and no one else or someone that has incredibly low self-esteem. Men hate it when women talk too much, it makes them clench their jaw, tighten their fists and rub their temples incessantly. Many times the perfect relationship isn’t based on how much you have in common or how easily you chat back and forth, but how you both can sit in silence comfortably, simply being with each other. Remember that.

The first step to getting a man’s attention is you paying attention to your own profile pictures, especially ones that allow your true personality to shine through. Again, men need incentive and you don’t need to be the most stunning woman on the internet to gain that incentive. You only need to have a clear portrait of yourself that shows who you are so that you can gain the right man’s attention. DatingHeadshots.com is a fantastic resource for finding photographers in your area that concentrate on making your dating profile pictures not only better, but true to your personality.

Although MySpace and Facebook are not officially online dating services, many people from 18 to 34 years old use these social networking sites to get dates in their area. A lot of people find MySpace and Facebook dating easier and less expensive than using more traditional online dating services like Match and eHarmony

Unlike most online dating services, Facebook and Myspace allow its users virtually unlimited control of their profiles. You can post up pictures, wallpaper, animations, videos and so on. In addition, you can leave comments on your friends’ profiles and they can leave comments on your profile. This allows you to see what kind of friends your potential love interest has. After all, “The best mirror is in the eyes of your friends”.

Although MySpace and Facebook allow its users to be more interactive with their profiles and communication, websites that are used solely for dating don’t have as much guesswork involved. For example, many people on Facebook and MySpace are just there for their friends, but people on official dating websites are there to find other singles like themselves, so you know that no matter what, the person you’re contacting will be looking for a date.

However, the thing that most online dating websites don’t have is the ability to find dates through your friends. With social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace, it’s easy to find new friends through the people that you already know. By simply viewing your best friend’s profile you can click on attractive people on his or her friend list and add them to your contacts. This is a good way to start meeting new love interests because you already know you have something in common – you’re both friends with the same person.

Another great thing about dating through Facebook and Myspace is the amount of pictures you can put on your profile. When it comes to online dating websites, the profile picture is usually the first thing people see and there is usually a limit to the amount of online dating photos you can display. However, with social networking sites you are able to display an unlimited amount of photographs and you can organize them into convenient folders. Not only that, but your friends and potential love interests can comment on your photographs and you can comment on theirs.

When it really comes down to the nitty-gritty, social networking sites like Facebook and Myspace aren’t completely ideal for dating. They’re used more for keeping up with friends and making plans for the weekend. However, they do have their potential. If you’re younger and looking to meet new people to date, social networking sites can help you find dates through friends you already know. Also, you can do more with your online profile than you can with most online dating services.

Yet, websites that are specifically designed for dating are much better for people looking for one specific thing – singles. There are no games and there is no middle man, it’s simply a bunch of singles looking for a date or a long term relationship.

One other difference between social networking sites and dating sites is money. Now, not all online dating services charge money, but most of the better ones do. But, with social networking, you’re guaranteed a good service without having to pay any money at all.

So, are sites like Facebook and Myspace really better for online dating? No. There is no definite site that has more success in the online dating world. What it really comes down to is your online dating profile picture and how your profile is displayed, as well as your preference concerning the flow of a dating website. All online dating services display themselves differently and cater to a specific demographic, you have to figure out which one is right for you. Trial and error is the best way to go.

Find professional photographers in your area who specialize in online dating photos and find more advice about online dating and online dating services at http://www.datingheadshots.com

They say that time heals everything and that’s true, but there are plenty of ways that you can help time along and heal faster so you can get over a recent break up and back to dating. So, instead of mulling over your ex and pouting around the house in your PJs all day attempting to find some vice ridden over indulgence to dive wrists deep into in order to forget the pain of the whole ordeal, try the following suggestions instead:

1) Accept That It’s Over

Crazy, right? Don’t think about, don’t try to call your Ex, don’t try to drive by your Ex’s house in the middle of the night and certainly don’t email your Ex. It’s over — quit it! Delete the phone number, rip up the love notes, delete the email address and get yourself a new online dating profile. Now THAT’S good advice, if you’ll follow up with it.

2) Call up Your Friends

When people are in a serious relationship they tend to fade out of their coveted social circles. So, now that you’re broken up this is a perfect opportunity to start getting back with your friends. Besides, what are friends for, right? Call them on the phone and go out with them even if you don’t particularly feel like it. Not only will you feel a little bit more normal, but you’ll begin ironing out your emotional kinks more quickly so that you can move on and get back to dating.

3) Improve Yourself

Think of all the time you wasted falling in love with your Ex just for it to end. Sorry, I didn’t want to make you feel bad, but now is the perfect opportunity to start taking more advantage of your time. Go take some classes down out your local community college and meet some new people. Go on a trip nearby to a place you’ve never been before. Start a new exercise regime. Learn how to play chess — whatever! Just work on improving yourself and using your time more wisely. This may help you discover some things about yourself that you never knew, which will in turn help you choose a different type of love interest the next time around.

4) Get a Hobby

Start painting, taking up photography or even sculpture. Collect stamps. Put together model cars. Study quantum mechanics in your spare time — it’s up to you, just get a hobby. A Hobby will not only take your mind off your ex it may also help you gain new conversation topics and aid you in discovering talents you never knew you had.

5) Keep Your Sense of Humor

Laugh at yourself and your situation, if you can’t do that then you’ll never get anywhere in life and definitely not over your Ex. Look back and reflect. Realize silly mistakes you’ve made in past relationships or feelings you experienced at the time and considered so important that you now consider incredibly trivial.

6) Reinvent Yourself

This is the most important aspect for getting over you Ex and getting back to dating. One of the best ways to reinvent yourself is to see yourself from the outside in like looking at a picture. Show the world who you really are and how ready you are to go out and be adventurous after your break up by going to DatingHeadShots.com and finding certified professional photographers in your area, you will be able to have 50 studio-quality photographs taken for under $130. The professional photographers will help guide you along in the process so that your inner self can truly shine through.

When you’re ready to start searching for the right person via your online dating profile of choice then you can pick 4 of your favorite photographs and DatingHeadShots.com will resize, reformat and retouch them to fit your online dating profile perfectly.

Remember, always reinvent yourself after a break up — it’s a new day. If you keep doing the same things over and over again and you keep getting bad results, then it’s a clear sign that you need to try something new. So, stop pouting and start getting online and finding dates, but make sure that everyone can see how fresh and revived you look by getting new professional dating photos from DatingHeadShots.com.

4 things you should never talk about

Past Relationships
Sex Stories
Having Babies
Political /Religious Views

Some of the most important topics to stay away from on a first date or second.

Past relationships

Have you ever heard someone talk about an ex? Their likes and dislikes. “Oh… my ex boyfriend liked strawberries too or he likes his steak rare as well…yeah…we loved laying around on Saturday nights watching scary movies and eating popcorn.”
Also, don’t talk about how horrible your ex was and all the fights that you got into. Or how his mom and you still go on shopping trips together.

Some people go through a list of the people they’ve dated in the past.  Or even do a little name-dropping i.e. “Yes the last person I dated was a lawyer, doctor, developer.”

I lived in Los Angeles for 10 years and the name-dropping you hear there is really entertaining!! They try and make it a little less inconspicuous by only using the celebrity’s first name.

“You know when I dated Leonardo or I met Mark or Jack and he asked for my number”
This is one of the most insecure things a person can do and it makes your date intimidated and probably think that you’re an ass.

Sexual Stories

Don’t start talking about how great sex was with your ex ever, or all your favorite sexual positions on a first date. “My ex and I would have sex every morning and every night before bed. He could go for hours.”  Save talking about sex positions until you’re in a relationship. If you talk about sex too soon it’s sure fire way to turn you date into a booty call.

Having Babies

Don’t ask your date how many kids he wants to have or go into how big a family you’ve always dreamed of “You know I’ve always dreamed of having a big family.  I’d love to have two girls and two boys. Of course we can always have more if you like”

Political / Religious Views

Don’t ask your date his political views on a first date.  This should be saved for waaaaayyy down the line.  Political views are even a sore subject with close friends and family.  I’ve seen wine glasses thrown and couples storming out of restaurants.  If you’ve ever been to the Four Seasons Restaurant in NYC I saw someone get thrown into the center pool over a political argument.  This goes for religion as well.  Though religion doesn’t tend to get as heated as politics, people are still very opinionated.
Not good subjects for first dates.

(Limit your drinking to no more than 2 drinks.  If you become too tipsy you may fall into the trap of talking about the 4 worst topics!)

I believe that there is a range of “types” of relationships that people are looking for. Not everyone is looking for marriage or even love. The online dating industry simply increases your opportunities for finding the relationship you are looking for exponentially.

To do this they give you two marketing tools, your written profile and your photos.
The only problem is potential dates aren’t interested in wading though the mountain of written profiles, they go right to the photos. In fact, the online dating companies don’t even give you an option to start reviewing peoples’ written profiles. All they present you with is a thumbnail of the person’s main profile photo. If you don’t have a photo …you don’t even get a chance to have someone look at your profile because you are on the 30th page of the dating sites search results!

The dating industry constantly ignores helping their subscribers with the fundamentals in favor of the next big technology like, pings or smiles or even mobile dating. They keep trying to find ways to put people together in the same virtual “room” but they forget to help you “dress” for the occasion.

Imagine you have a friend who is constantly bringing eligible dates to your house at all hours of the day and night regardless of how your dressed or made up. Imagine you just got out of bed and look like shit and here they come through your front door.  They probably aren’t going to be very impressed and will turn around and walk out the door.  That’s what its like when you don’t take care of the online dating fundamentals.

That is what I think every time I look through the online dating sites and see countless lousy photos of people looking for a relationship ..don’t they get it? Isn’t it obvious?

The dating companies think that photos are the number one most important thing to helping you start a conversation with the other person …that’s why when you do a search all that comes up are page after page of photos of people that meet your search criteria. If it is so important to them that they would build the entire web site to show your photo first then don’t you think that you should probably put at least a good photo in your profile?

Out of focus, to many people in the picture, too small, too distorted, pixilated, photo with a baby, photo of only a dog, too funky, photo looks like a mug shot….these are the common photos people upload to try and make an impression on someone enough to get the other person to start a conversation. Then they are surprised that online dating doesn’t work for them!

Everyone has heard the stories or even knows somebody that got the relationship they were looking for with online dating. However, they forget to ask what those people did differently to make it work for them.

Most people only stay with an online dating site for 3 months before they leave it for good. Yet within a few weeks they usually pick another online dating site, usually a free site, and start all over, thinking that it was the sites fault that they did not get a lot of dates. They load the same profile photos, if they have them, and copy the same profile to the new site and sit back and wait. Then they are surprised that they get the same results.

Here’s some advice, Try something different. Take some time with your profile and make the best “first impression” that you can. Write some thing “real” and take a little time to find a photo of you, just you, that you like.

Your dating sites is not going to help you with the dating fundamentals, no matter if you pay them every month or it’s a free site. With a little care and attention to the dating fundamentals you will enjoy the most dating success possible.